No, I have always taken the reigns on the checking account. He is the spender in the M and I am the saver. So needless to say we are paycheck to paycheck. If he sees an amount at the ATM, he assumes that is the actual balance. He doesn't seem to take into consideration that there may be bills that haven't cleared yet. I am not trying to bash him. He didn't have money as a child and now that he has a job, he wants to spend it.
I am trying to be less controlling in this regards. One of his issues with our M is my control over things. It has been that way because I have never seen him try to take control of anything. It has always been..."ok, I will get to it" Not something that a person with my personality wants to hear.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
