Well, my first thread has locked up...lucky me. Just wanted to stop in and report that nothing new has happened. H did not show up last night and when I called to find out if he was going to, it seemed that he was still pretty depressed. I pray that he will realize that he can talk to me about things but I am not going to push him. I have a feeling that he is sleeping his life away at the moment.
I hope everyone else is having a good weekend so far and will have a safe New Year's Eve. Keep yourself active so that you don't think too much about who your S is with at midnight. I think I am going to head over to the church tomorrow night. A bunch of people are going to get together and have a potluck and a good time playing games. Hopefully my mind will be filled with other things rather than the H.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Keep up your resolve, and have fun tomorrow night! I'll be without H for NYE too...he's leaving on a business trip. Blech. Back to battling the demons in my brain!
I will try to keep myself busy. How is your sitch going Aud?
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Christmas was nice--MIL kicked H out for Christmas Eve, so he stayed the night at home with us. I had a hard time sleeping--I'm getting too used to not sharing my comfy bed. We had a lovely day starting in the morning with our little ones, then to my parents' home and then to his. At the end of the day, he gathered his gifts and hauled them back to his parents' home.
He has been busy this week preparing for a business trip beginning tomorrow. It's to a new place, so I'm not really worried about an OP.
I am being bombarded today with thoughts of the past and both OWs, but I'm REALLY trying hard to not let them bother me. I am getting to a place where I feel happy and confident most of the time. I like it MUCH better than before when I spent a lot of time dwelling on everything. Don't want to backslide on this one. I can literally see the difference in our interactions when I'm winning the thought war vs losing.
My main concern remains that I am unsure if he's really working on any of his issues. He seems fine around everyone, and tends to just "not think" about anything. I think he likes not having to be with us very often. Sigh. So here's my mantra to help me stay focused on the positives: I AM GRATEFUL FOR HIS LOVE. I truly believe that if I focus on that, more of the same will be added to it.
I just wanted to share a prayer that I have been praying over my H daily. It is good for all of the wives that need a good prayer in their situations. I really don't know where this came from. I just found it at my house one day. I guess someone gave it to me for a reason.
LIFTING MY HUSBAND THROUGH PRAYER "Lord, I lift my husband to you today and pray, according to your word, that: * You give him strength to lead, time to know his family, and a passion to manage his home. * You bless his work and show him daily how to honor You in his attitude and spirit; confirm the work of his hands unto Your purpose. * He will be a wise steward of our finances and all we possess, remembering that all things are Yours and entrusted to us for Your purposes * He will love You will all his heart, soul, mind and strength and hate evil. * He will be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. * You protect him physically, mentally and spiritually * You give him the desire to teach and model a godly lifestyle for his children. * You will instruct him and teach him in the way he should go; give him peace in the circumstances, and integrity in decisions he must face today. * He will meditate day and night on Your word, pray without ceasing and stay faithful to Christ to the end. * He will develop strong relationships with other godly men."
PRAYING FOR MYSELF AS A WIFE: "Make me my husband's helpmate, companion, champion, friend and support. Help me to create a peaceful, restful, safe place for him to come home to. Teach me how to take care of myself and stay attractive to him. Grow me into a creative and confident woman who is rich in mind, soul and spirit. Make me the kind of woman he can be proud to say is his wife. I lay all my expectations at Your cross. I release my husband from the burden of fulfilling me in areas where I should be looking to you. Help me to accept him the way he is and not try to change him....I leave any changing that needs to be done in Your hands, fully accepting that neither of us is perfect and never will be. Only You, Lord, are perfect and I look to You to perfect us. Teach me how to pray for my husband and make my prayers a true language of love."
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Kristy, I am so glad that you stopped by. I hope these prayers help you in your sitch. Please feel free to stop by at any time.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Well, as I was reading through this card with the prayers, I was smacked in the face. Down at the very bottom is a few sentences that I never seemed to read.....WOW, I guess you should read all the instructions before proceeding with the recipe.
It says "Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen....Leave it in His hands."
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
We had a lovely day starting in the morning with our little ones, then to my parents' home and then to his. At the end of the day, he gathered his gifts and hauled them back to his parents' home. 
