Christmas was nice--MIL kicked H out for Christmas Eve, so he stayed the night at home with us. I had a hard time sleeping--I'm getting too used to not sharing my comfy bed. We had a lovely day starting in the morning with our little ones, then to my parents' home and then to his. At the end of the day, he gathered his gifts and hauled them back to his parents' home.
He has been busy this week preparing for a business trip beginning tomorrow. It's to a new place, so I'm not really worried about an OP.
I am being bombarded today with thoughts of the past and both OWs, but I'm REALLY trying hard to not let them bother me. I am getting to a place where I feel happy and confident most of the time. I like it MUCH better than before when I spent a lot of time dwelling on everything. Don't want to backslide on this one. I can literally see the difference in our interactions when I'm winning the thought war vs losing.
My main concern remains that I am unsure if he's really working on any of his issues. He seems fine around everyone, and tends to just "not think" about anything. I think he likes not having to be with us very often. Sigh. So here's my mantra to help me stay focused on the positives: I AM GRATEFUL FOR HIS LOVE. I truly believe that if I focus on that, more of the same will be added to it.
We had a lovely day starting in the morning with our little ones, then to my parents' home and then to his. At the end of the day, he gathered his gifts and hauled them back to his parents' home. 
