I get the feeling you are a compassionate and giving person. I think, even if the marriage doesn't work out, you would probably want to offer support and friendship. And that might be something you can give him.
I've come to realize that the trust we now give our husbands is a different kind of one. It's like you have to change the definition of it. Rather than trusting that my husband will never do these things to "me" again, I am working towards a trust that he will strive to do what's best and work towards living a healthier and ultimately happier life. I find that somehow looking at trust differently makes it easier for me to think it can be constructed again and in time (a lot of time!) a fuller kind of trust may be there.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
