You have had a rough time of it to be sure. The times ahead will not be easy but I think your M can be fixed and the both of you can move forward. Believe me, its no easy task. My W was involved in an EA while I was deployed overseas, we decided to work on our M and went to counseling for over a year. Things were good until recently. Finiancial stress has caused M issues and has caused me to backslide somewhat on worries of her having another A. The best thing I can say is continue conseling for your M, and get him into counseling for his addiction to the escort services. Its baby steps at this point, one day at a time. It will be an emotional roller coaster ride and will seem to never end but get a good support team, come here and talk to an understanding preacher/minister. The worst for me is those "alone times", its hard to keep my mind from wandering to "what if" of what she is doing and as you said, you ahve simular issues. I just have to have faith that she will be true, (TRUST....such a hard thing for me it seems) and you are in the same boat. I will add you to my prayer list and I have hope for you and your M. All things are possible in God.
