"Personally, I love the idea of throwing out the crappy clothes or making a "date" where you take her shopping and help her pick some "at home" clothes that you think are attractive too."
I will say that I have attempted some things along those lines, and have gotten a very negative response from my W. One time when we were out with her friends at a mall. I went into a clothing store with them and started pointing out some things that I thought would look good on her. She got rather mad claiming I was trying to change her, that I didn't appreciate her, that the clothes were too expensive, etc. When she complained that a $30 blouse (or whatever the thing was called, I'm not up on my female clothing terminology, something you wear on your top half) was too expensive, I realized it was just deflection as we had just got through spending $40 on lunch. Her friends were actually flabbergasted at her response and even said openly "I wish my H or BF would take the time to show me what he likes instead of me having to guess all the time." Granted, my W and I have some underlying issues that probably caused her reaction, but she did seem disturbed by their reaction. I frankly wonder if I have been TOO appreciative of her looks, so much so that it rarely even crosses her mind that she might need to expend effort to look good in front of me. While in truth the effort is not needed, she is a stunningly beautiful woman in a burlap sack with no makeup, the state-of-mind behind putting in the effort to look good is perhaps a beneficial thing that is missing in our R.
Anyway, I did talk about it with my C. I had an initial idea to take her on a shopping spree, in which I accompanied her to a clothing store and bought her whatever she wanted. He suggested that wasn't a good idea because it would put pressure on her to please me. But I wonder if a little bit of that pressure is not a bad thing. It certainly is in line with high self-esteem, in which you expect others to treat you well.
I'm probaly rambling too much here. Still getting over the entire family being sick the past few days.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
