You are very correct that Cobra's sitch and Chromes are vastly different. In Cobra's defense Mrs. C has been downright mean, rude and inappropriate with him many times. My point all along has not been about plastic surgery per se (I would pay good $$ to get some fabulous ta tas in a red hot minute but we have lots of other more pressing things to spend money on and my H is wildly against it). My point has been that there is no foundation in that R for that kind of "honesty" about his preferences. You have to have a bare minimum of tolerance, loving interaction, kindness, belief in the other's good intention before you can have a conversation that goes - gee honey, seems like you are uncomfortable with you body and I want you to know that I love you and am attracted to you as you are but we do have the $$ and I have no problem with using it to do whatever it takes to enhance your self image - clothes, personal trainer, plastic surgery, psychotherapy etc... Chrome's R may very well be able to handle that conversation. Of course, whenever a S undergoes major transformation - plastic surgery, losing a bunch of weight, whatever weird things can happen. They can decide that they are now "too good" for their old S anyway. I've seen it happen. I really don't see it as a feminist issue in any way and never had a feminist agenda attached to it - Mrs. C did but I did not. I have no issue with men being attracted to nice breasts and as I said, I would fix mine in a hot minute.
BTW - Cobra - this convo was intended to reply to trying and Chrome not to you.
