Chrome you are sweet. But see in your post you can feel the love and respect for your wife. So that is the big difference in your post. You would be saying it out of love to help your wife if she had issues about her stomach that continue. In other words you would be willing to support her but is not a prerequisite to marriage with you. Just to make a strong point on this subject was this in any way placed into your marriage vows for any man on this board....

I shall vow to always look attractive to you. I vow to always soothe you in any way that I can as far as my appearance goes. I agree that if my stomach gets out of whack from bearing your children I shall go under medical procedures to correct that. I vow to when my breats start to sag or get smaller with age that I will also go under the knife and go under yet another medical procedure.

Hmmmm I never heard those things in my vows. I hate when people change so much after marriage. Be honest with your sexist wishes BEFORE marriage.

Okay but enough of that. I kind of see Cobra's situation at a different angle. I think he is very insecure as a man. I don't mean that to bash him in any way. But maybe he hasn't noticed this. Maybe this is something he could get therapy for. Because it is this very insecurity that I believe drives him to be so harsh and mean with his wife. Just his comment about how she dresses for others at work nice so she should do this at home for me well, to me shows insecurity. Because we all know that every day we have to dress for success. But during the weekend I know myself I like to let my face take a breather from the make-up. I sometimes like to put on a really comfy pair of sweats and just wind down before another weeks passes. I also feel the same way about my husband. he busts his azz all week to support our family. During the weekend he should wind down all he wants. I wouldn't care if he stayed in his sweats and comfy sports team sweatshirt. But see I love him. I love him for him. He don't have to run around in hair gel, a suit, and cologne for me to be attracted to him. But see Cobra thinks, well, she does this for everybody at work and looks all nice I am left out.
See here is where I think his strong insecurity stems from. His wife doesn't love him. They also have a SSM if he doesn't push. It is him that HAS to push for this. So he isn't desired by his wife nor loved by his wife. For the most part sounds like he isn't even respected either. So why not bash her in every way he can, place all the blame, and now even dig into the appearance part. Because deep down he is angry that he isn't loved, desired, or respected. He is trying to cover up that hurt by lashing out.