cobra, there is nothing wrong with you wanting Mrs. Cobra to have a boob job. I am not invalidating that pov-- why do you insist on reading my comments that way? Get this: I believe that your preferences vis a vis your wife's appearance are totally valid. So please don't read that wrong again, okay?
My problem is that you told her of your preference very bluntly WHILE she was vulnerable (as NOP pointed out) when you were ML. The fact that you were honest in expressing a valid pov does not negate the fact that you were wrong to bring it up when you did THE WAY you did, and then label her reaction as rooted in FOO issues. What you said was rude-- evn though authentic AND true-- and rudeness is not the way to foster intimacy. I'm through with this particular discussion.
