All I know is that I have some major walls to break through and I consider these types of tactics completely fair game for saving the marriage. I know too well the consequence of not breaking through. I also think this situation served as a good example of what I have been saying - if you can touch the wounded inner child, the person will respond. Feeling that true sense of caring from a spouse can add more points to the love bank than anything else, even if you have to resort to things that might otherwise create massive LB withdrawals. Touching the soul in this way can erase all the negatives that occurred before. I know it works. It is not easy but it works.
