Still alive

[Burgbud]

But, of course, that's not what I did. Instead, I chose to be the empathetic guy that she sometimes says I am capable of being. I pooh-poohed the thought that she wasn't a very good wife and I didn't even touch the comment about being better in the future.

Whoops! Oh well, you can get better with practice.

Be who you are and say what you mean. You don't have to be cruel to a sick woman but don't pooh-pooh the thought that she wasn't a very good wife unless you mean it. Just tell her you appreciate the thought, or whatever.

Changing habits takes awhile, though. It might help if you got really, really drunk. Just avoid beers with fruit in them.