Mrs. Nop made some very good points there. I think that putting your arm around W was a very natural gesture since you were in a place that felt comfortable and good. Too bad she had to let her own discomforts and insecurities ruin the moment.
I went to a Unitarian church for quite a while and very much enjoyed it. I liked the way that they melded the different belief systems and discussed issues of "social justice". You need a place to belong. It is a very good thing.
Keep on Hairy. You will be ok. Maybe Mrs. HD will find out along the way that she can have sex, be a woman, be a wife and be an accomplished person too without having this tight azzed, politically correct, prickly approach to everything. I wish I were her best friend who could tell her - RELAX!!! Many of the most feminazi women who were key to getting women where they are today have had regrets/rethought their positions as they mellowed out, got a bit older.