Thank you all for your insight. Sorry for the late reply. I have been busy at work and at home.
hoping, Thank you for stopping by. I’m not so sure if my wife has really gotten over the guilt part of her affair or not. She might be feeling guilty about it or she might not be at all. All I know is that she doesn’t want to hear about it ever. But at the same time she doesn’t want to work on the marriage either (based on my gut feeling).
Like you said there is no time limit on this and it could take a very long time. I understand that. But, I know it shouldn’t be a “but”, but the thing is I’m afraid that my love for my wife is slowly diminishing as a day goes by. Maybe that is what my wife wants so that she won’t be feeling guilty about it because it’s over for our love and relationship.
ANewBob, Thank you for the information. I got the book last week and I have been reading some of the chapters lately. I have not finished the book yet. I hope to learn something from it and see where I can apply to my situation.
I thought about what you said here too that my wife might not “wake up” until she realizes that she is losing me. I hope I don’t have to get to that but I still keep that in mind. Lately I have been thinking toward that option and understand that there is no turning back I choose to do that if my wife doesn’t respond.
TheMZA, I know how you feel. Me too, I have been doing what you have described here, but felt that there wasn’t much in return, but like they said if you are willing to give you shouldn’t expect anything in return. It is hard to accept that when there are two people in the relationship. Yes, one can work on the marriage alone for the time being, but in the end two have to work together to reach that goal of happy marriage.
Again thank you for dropping by.
LAN
PS. I wish I could say that I’m doing fine but in reality I still have my up and down. Lately I have been thinking about giving up my marriage entirely. Like I said I’m still LonelyAtNight.
