LAN - Took a look through "Passionate Marriage" this morning and I think Chapter 11 is the one that had the sitch that seems so similar to yours (and mine).
TheMZA - Glad to see you drop in. I am guessing that all of your house involvement is a 180 for you. In my case, I've been doing that stuff for years but going a 180 would be detrimental to my kids so that's out. What has helped me is to keep a "zero expectations" attitude towards W - that I (or our marriage) may never be a priority with her. But that is solely her loss and her problem. Love that D of yours with all of your heart but never use D to get at W. And feel free to hang out with us in the Piecing board...
