First time posting to you LAN, you sound like you have really been on a ride. Sounds like your w has not gotten over the guilt part of an a,if she says no divorce unless you have to, that is a very big plus for you. Healing can't have a time limit, it could take a long time. We all wnat it fixed now, but I am learning that it does not work that way. Keep working on you in the meantime, our lives go on, even with the crap we are handed we have the choice how to deal with it. Sue
