I'm in the same boat. My H sleeps in his studio outback. My H isn't so direct but the outcome is the same. No intimacy and no sex. I am very sad about this and am torn by my need for sex(intimacy) vs. my tenacity for hanging in there.
We just went to a weekend for severely damaged marriages. You can read about it on my thread: "Post Retrouvaille" in this forum.
You might be interested in attending. I think a lot of times for women at least, their sexual life is so tied in with their emotional life. The weekend is very good for helping to process feelings.
Maybe she is experiencing extreme guilt or shame. That could make it hard to be vulnerable with you sexually as well...
I gotta run right now but will try to finish my post later...
