Well, you can backtrack and read my half a million posts, but the main thing I learned when dealing with my H is to be direct, clear, specific, repetitive, and not back down. I had gotten it into my head that I was deserving of the kind of stimulation that turns me on, and had a lot of pent up desire and frustration to motivate me. Ironically, I wanted my H to be more aggressive ( among other things)!
I also feel our MC ( who became his IC) got H to see that he had issues.
I would suggst him getting a test for diseases before even thinking about being intimate with him. If he was with a prostitute I hate to think about what he could have been in contact with.
About the sex issues. You just have to be open and honest with him. Let him know point blank what you need from him in that department. Let him know how you enjoy sex. Also let him know that he isn't doing it for you in the bedroom. Try to do it gently but do let him know. Don't make excuses about the child support for him. If he was any kind of man he would pay that voluntarily.
