Hi Neverland... My H would get defensive and inflexible regarding sex because he was trying to cover up his own anxiety. The only way this changed is when he was finally able to acknowledge his own stuff instead of tossing it onto me. I had to figure out what I wanted and assert myself. It sounds like you are being bamboozled by your H to accept a kind of sex you don't like. You are already separated...what is stopping you from really standing your ground?
