How to get sex back on track?

[Neverland]

Things have pretty much always been like this. Before we were married, we had sex though not as often as I would like and it was only OK at best. There wasn’t much affection then either. I thought since we loved each other and enjoyed each others company so much that things would get better in time. Instead they got worse. After we were married, he started to complain that sex wasn’t frequent enough even though it was about the same as before. This is also when he started to be mean about it. Instead of wooing me, he would get angry, tell me I was frigid and withholding sex. It became harder and harder to be with him. I went from wanting more to wanting to avoid sex.

Our relationship is a mess. At about the same time, he became so demanding I also discovered that he was spending fairly significant sums of money on phone sex. Since then there have been several periods of compulsive spending, pornography and finally a series of encounters with a prostitute. All of which he has lied about leaving no trust in the relationship at all.

I have read Passionate Marriage and its sequel Resurrecting Sex but it takes two. He still just insists that I hate sex and there is nothing he can do.