I don't think your story is unique at all. Many people here have issues with the kind of sex as well as the frequency. Many of us have partners who not only don't want sex very often but have trouble with close kinds of behaviors like kissing and cuddling also. The question is - how did you get to this impasse? Was it always like this or is this new? What is the quality of your R in general? We can offer better suggestions if we know a little more. I think I would reccommend two books for you - Passionate Marriage and Peace Between the Sheets. Passionate Marriage describes a lot about how we arrive at these kinds of impasses and Peace Between the Sheets looks at a truly alternate view of having a sexual R with some ideas that would be good for any couple. Good luck.
