I appreciate your thoughts... I just didn't know if I was over reacting or not, for I do feel a bit skiddish while he's around.
D feels that for every penny he spends, is one less penny I have to. She also feels he is trying to buy her love, and says she's not for sale.
I've asked S if he is feeling slighted, and he said no, it's just Dad, and he's working on D right now. Then he said "You worry too much Mom, you're not gonna get off that easily, your stuck with us."
I know xh has been talking about her children with these two. He's not gaining any respect by doing this, but possibly trying to get these two interested in their lives. Maybe he just doesn't know these two well enough to hold a conversation with them without bringing his new life into their discussions. I believe you are right, with everything he is doing, he will hang himself, if not in court, he will by not having a meaninful relationship with his own children. According to xh and his wife, he has a wonderful relationship with her children. She is now allowing him to make the house rules and dole out discipline, which should appease his need for control.
We have been enjoying our time, even put D behind the wheel this afternoon on the way home... her 14th birthday is coming up and she will want her farm permit just like her brother. She's a good driver already, so when the time comes, I will know she has enough experience to drive herself home, if I am working.
They were 9 and 10 when all of this began. They are growing up so quickly. I am very proud of who they are becoming. It won't be long before they are college bound. I am trying to make the most of what we do have today, and take in every moment.
Thanks for your insight... I'm glad I'm not too far off base. We will enjoy the rest of our holiday, and hopefully xh will be too busy to bother with us for the rest of his stay.
Take care of you, God Bless
Love,
Laughing
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
