Hey Snowdog!!! You going to Denver to play in the white stuff? Good luck getting a flight in there now.
Good to see your still around, and as L says, you've got to give us an update, feel free to step on the thread!
Was2Sad, the reason for any communication after this long a period of time , would be to fill in the holes, smooth over the wounds inflicted by someone that has been in MLC and hopefully came out of the tunnel.
That's one reason, not for me anymore, but for some, very important.
For me, it would be to see if that person you were involved with, shared a life with,loved, be it for a few years or decades, finally got out on the other end of the tunnel and turned out OK. It's the unanswered question.
Did they make it through MLC or did they get stuck? Are they somewhere in between yet?
No one would be here on this BB if they were just ticked off to the point they didn't care anymore, be it about the former, the now walk away,the soon to be, "can I fix it", whatever the sitch.
Years ago I expressed the viewpoint it was far easier to get so angry at them, that you just didn't care at all, and found the first set of inviting arms and you moved on with that invitation.
Very simple.
Cut and dry.
But anybody on the BB knows it's not that simple for us.
That's why we came to the DB boards. To try. To learn. To understand what someone else significant to us was going through.
Some of us made it, some of us packed it in, some are still waiting and DBing.
But, that question arises how the other turned out only if you cared,even if it is now a small tiny caring.
Only if you spent the time here, trying to figure it out (and yourself) would you want to know the answer to the question, and the only way of finding out, is to communicate in some manner with that person.
For some it is "closure". For others it is to see if there is any chance of putting it back together.
For me, it is being curious.
Why do I still get stuff in my mailbox for this person that is out of my life for years, yet it is obvious this person is going out of their way (or it at least appears so) to make sure I get stuff addressed to her in their married name at my address? Why do I get phone calls for her, when it is obvious she has used her married to me name and my phone number?
This is not crank stuff, these are legitimate pieces of mail, business calls, and sometimes of recent and important communications.
So, that's why, the question , why?
Is this an attempt to see who can be more stubborn in not making a call or sending an email?
It would be typical of her personality, she was always stubborn as could be. (But that was one of the reasons I loved her)
I just stick it in an envelope and and send it along with no comment. That's me.
I've gotten a life.
I don't have time for games.
I did find someone, or I should say rediscovered.
We've been both through it with our formers. We understand it , don't have to explain it to each other, we already know what we've been through. Saves a lot of time.
And we already know what unconditional love is all about because of our experiences.
You raised a point about just that, unconditional love.
Where do you find it?
I can't give you GPS. Nor Can anyone else.
But I can tell you, the folks I have had face to face with over the years that have been through this MLC thing -
50% or better found unconditional love with - of all people - the person that went through MLC they stuck by and rode it out.
Go figure.
Or, He is kind enough to take the time, to arrange things, get them in order so you can meet someone else that has been through this and already understands it. (I've heard that story many times also)
May His peace be upon you and yours.
Be patient. He's working on it.
