Yes, I saw the news tonight, they said it was about 69 deg. in Virginia...good old global warming...
Wow...you had a Maine Coon cat...they are beautiful, my aunt had one and what a personality...sort of like a blue Siamese...very self-righteous and superior.
Today, my vet sent a card, with an orange cat and a brown dog overlooking a lake at sundown with the words: ...with sympathy, then, inside on the left side it said: ...A friend is someone who dances with you in the sunlight and walks beside you in the shadows... Then, on the other side: We understand how difficult your decision must have been. We hope you find comfort in knowing that when your pet needed you most, you were a true friend. The doctor and staff all signed it and wrote that Cheddar will be greatly missed. It brought tears to my eyes - here, the doctor took the time to send this and even wrote something inside, yet, my XH, thinks I'm acting a bit childish and stupid...
Yes, Cheddie walked beside me in the yard whenever we went outside - my XH, could care less...time to think about this...
I wonder about men like your XH.. I mean especially since one of his own parents passed away recently ?
However, I suppose that most of us on this BB would not be here anyway unless we were empathetic and felt for others ? Even those that hurt the most here help others.
Still.. When we love someone and care about someone we take them as they are.. up to a point.
I have a recently divorced friend whose X was and is totally self absorbed. He has no empathy at all for anyone or anything unless it suits his "needs".. he is a classic narcissist. He still tries to control our friends emotions and actions from 120 miles away. I will never totally understand people like that.
On a happier note.. Mr. Fuzzytoes found my tie on the back of one of the kitchen chairs this evening and has brought it downstairs to me to play ! This is not an inexpensive tie btw..
Play with MFT...he needs love and quality time...a tie can be replaced...but, MFT cannot...
No, I don't think his mother passing is the issue, now, it could be his need to be mr. macho in his dealings at work.
Who knows, I'm not going to lose any sleep over him, he did act in a absolute jacka@# manner - but he's done this before. I still feel the need to get over my grief, it has not even been a week - I'll stay around my house this week- end...not wanting to do much, but plant flowers around Cheddie's stone and then put the angel on the stone.
1210 , are you up to helping me out here? ChrisW in "I need support..." is one of my "projects" and I think he could use your input here. This guy doesn't seem to realize he's won the lottery, he keeps trying to throw away his ticket! If you could, drop on over. I've given him my 2 cents, yours would be helpful too. Thanks If you aren't up to it, don't worry I'll still love you (just not as much )!
No, my X is not a character, he's an insensitive, male with chauvinistic peculiarities that he justifies as his right to proclaim...
I can't sleep - b/c my mind is racing over everything that I disdain in him...every little annoying thing, every little sarcastic tone, statement, etc...ughhhhhhhh, I can not shut it off...it keeps replaying over and over and over in my head. Yet, I keep hearing Crazy, in my head as well...by Gnarls Barkley...
...you'd better think twice and take my advice... hahaha...bless your soul, you think you're in control, well, I think your crazy... yes, I think you're crazy I think you're crazy probably...
Decisions, decisions, decisions...it makes me feel so torn in wanting him back, but not wanting him, like he is..
No...I think that what is bothering me is just the plain obvious...I need to walk away. I don't need him, but chose to love him. With his verbal abuse of my cat, with whom he never thought twice about; brought up all the reasons why I recovered so quickly after the D...I could justify my need to start over.
I allowed myself one year to shake the bitterness and sad feelings from the R, before I put myself back on the market again - sort of brushing off the dirt...then he reappears, so I get excited, only to find, he hasn't changed that much.
I'm pretty good with investments in the market and mutual funds...but I guess I'm wary of investing in him again, to go down the same road ...
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