Thank you all for your kind messages about Cheddie Cheese. I'm still sad and down about his death, but one would say that he is indeed in Heaven...
I'm going to go to Home Depot this weekend and buy some orange impatiens plants and put around his stone. I have a beautiful resin statute of an angel that is bent down with her head on her knees and arms around her head with about two feet high wings standing straight up to the sky, that will sit on his grave.
For NYE, I stayed home, not wanting to go out and celebrate. This caused a major problem with the XH, whom basically said I was being stupid for acting like a human died. I won't go into his exact words - but, they were pretty mean and inconsiderate.
I spoke with him on New Year's night - the same thing. So, I told him that I'll call him when I feel better...but, I haven't called yet...I'm not sure if I will...
You were truly missed as you can see. We are all thinking of you during this horrible time.
Some things never change do they. It seems pretty apparent that your XH hasn't "gotten" it yet. If you don't mind I can come down there and have a little "talk" with him about being more considerate!
Rock On Cheddie......You will be missed!!!!
M-35 going on 15 D-8 S- 3 yrs ex-CL(w)- 30
D over one year
I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be. Douglas Adams "Just Be"
Yes...Cheddie will have fun in Heaven, running around, and looking at everything...
My XH was really a piece of work...no empathy, sympathy, or any thoughts to how I feel. He said he would buy me a new orange cat...like that would really make me feel better. I'm not liking what I see with him...he seems the same and more shallow than before.
I'm used to being by myself...controlling me and my pets. He seems like an intrusion now - someone, with whom, I have out grown. Yes, he's handsome, makes money and I do love him...but, that's not enough...his lack of compassion, in regards to Cheddie - tells me, we aren't on the same page.
Welcome back 1210! Your XH's attitude just boggles my mind. Even if he doesn't feel the pain you are feeling or even understand it, doesn't it make sense for him to at least respect it? And he wants you back? Wow, what a way to go about it. BTW Sorry about Cheddie once again.
well.. Bob will bat at Cheddies tail and incite him into a good chase now and then ! It is ok... We buried him in the side garden by the trellis he was a good friend too !
Money and material things have a place .. I guess.. but I do not bother with anyone.. Male.. female.. whatever.. that lack empathy and compassion. These traits are basic emotional value things.
That is just me btw.. I would rather be financially "poor" and emotionally "well off ".
This is a learning experience for you..a good one albeit a sad one.. about the XH I think.
