Long Time Coming

[osu43130]

Sorry about Cheddie 1210.

[DavidM]

1210.... I am so sorry for you. XW and I had to put down our first cat the day after we found out her Dad was terminal w/ Cancer... We had the him for almost 12 years and he was HUGE; over 20 lbs and it wasn't fat. Not the nicest, cuddliest cat, but it still hurt bad.
Then D15 had to put down her cat 3 years ago; she'd had him since she was 2; she insisted on going in and holding her b/c as she said "She's always been there for me, I HAVE to be there for her"...

This really sucks; our pets are a huge part of our lives. Hope you get through this. Might you be able to ask XH to go w/ you when the time comes? That may give you some insight into where his emotions are these days.

Take care.
D

[whatisis]

1210, a few months ago my children got their first hamster, it was an old one given to them by a friends family who were getting a dog. After two months the hamster died in youngest D's hands. It was so traumatic for those kids, I cried because I was so overwhelmed by their grief. I've never really had a pet myself but the emotion and love I saw those little girls give that small creature proved to me the wonders of having a pet. The R they had with this $7 hamster was worth far more than its miniscule monetary value. They also had to deal with the death of something they loved, for the first time and they grew because of it. I know a rodent cannot compare to the R's people have with their cats/ dogs etc. but I certainly do feel for you. So stay strong, cry lots and let us all know how you're doing.

[osu43130]

A small positive for you in this rough time.....

FSU won their bowl game...

[sofaraway]

Hey 1210, couple of things for you.

First off, I am sorry to hear about Cheddie, I know you are very attached and I know that you will certainly miss him. I'm very sorry.

Second, I like what you said here:

Yes, I know what to do...just not yet. The opportune time
must be right. But, it is necessary to discuss the issues.
I won't invest 100% into this, until I know that this is
legit.

There is no rush on this is there? Take your time, feel him out, make sure this is what YOU want, make sure HE is actually ready for all of this, and make sure that YOU protect yourself in anyway neccesary. The last thing that you need is to get hurt again. Slow and steady, if he is back for real then a little time certainly won't matter to him. AT's open ended questions are great, just make sure the timing is right before you do to much probing. For now take your time and make sure that your chemistry is still there and something that you really want to pursue. If not, there's always thong boy CM, allthough I think your H would be easier to deal with

Ian

[lovingme]

I just found this thread. Going though a very hard time in my own r right now. H moved out a year ago and is living with ow. I just feel so down like it is over and there is no way he would ever come back. He has absolutely no feelings for me. None. Can you give me a brief version of your story or direct me to your first thread?!

Are you actually divorced?! Did your h have an ow? How long and what made him want to work things out? I guess I am looking for any little glimpse of hope I can find.

Thanks

[verycrazy]

Sounds like Cheddie is anemic, too. Have you tried to syringe some kind of beef liver liquid into his mouth? I have always had a few cats and love them all, but especially the first two I had who were brothers. I got them when my H and I were dating, and he loved them as much as I did. They were sixteen and seventeen when they died. I used to read about all kinds of pet health stuff in Prevention magazine. There was one once about a cat who would not eat due to some kind of sickness, I don't know if it was leukemia or not, but it said to give stuff like beef liver or kidneys to kind of strengthen them. Pet Cheddie for me. L

[attorneytom]

Hi 1210:

I was just wondering if the inevitable occurred last night or is he still with you ?

Tom

[12102006]

All...

Cheddie is still here...but not looking good. He takes about 20 licks of water, then sits on a towel, in his bun
position. I have opened everything I can, to feed him...
he won't eat.

I went online and one site said prenisone...I have that,
but, that would shut his immune system down, then how much? Another said to try Hill's food from the vet, so
tomorrow I'll get some. VC - he's had raw and cooked ground sirloin, oatmeal with milk, tuna oil...he refuses
to eat. Leukemia does leave all skin white, plus he has
a strong sickly breath. I slept on the floor last night
with him, our faces touching, but he's weak.

David - my XH thinks that my animals are spoiled...they are
my children. He wouldn't care if he died or not...he's
always been like that. Once, at our house, I had a party
and there were lots of people; I went outside to call my
cats and one didn't come...then, I saw him by someone's
tire - they ran over its' head. So, I brought him inside,
told my H, the party was over - everyone had to leave - then I went to get a sheet to wrap him up in, so my H would
then bury him. No, the H says, I'll do it tomorrow. Well,
standing there with tears running down my face - I said
you will do it now, or I will. So, everyone that was male
went out back to dig a hole with my H, the ladies just
stayed with me until the hole was deep enough. Then, I
placed him in it and covered him up...but I stayed there
for most of the evening. The party went on and my H came
out and said you're not being a good hostess...so then I
said, one of your F#####g, friends, backed over my cat, just how do you propose me to be a hostess...get rid of
everyone, I want them out of here...now. So, they left,
after one by one, they offered sympathies to me...my very
rocky marriage began to falter.

Anyway, he has an appt at the vet for saturday - for eutha-
nasia...if he continues down...

I'll post back tomorrow, for I'm taking it off to spend
with Cheddie Cheese...

thanks for all of your concerns...I appreciate it, deeply.

[Tiara Boy (CM)]

1210-

I want to offer whatever I can to you and Cheddie. I will be traveling tomorrow, but email me at [e-mail] if there is anything at all I can do. I can check email through my phone.

I had to put my beloved cat of 18years down one week after the W and I married. I know the pain. Email me and rant and rave, do whatever you need to do.

I will keep you and Cheddie in my prayers.

I am so sorry.

Tyson