Guys will go through the motions ONLY if they are just out to get some. It sounds to me like your XH could get some at anytime. You have the attraction to him and I'm thinking he has it towards you also. Must be nice...my W says she hasn't ever been sexually attracted towards me.
The dating thing isn't a necessity if you want to just jump back in and see where you end up!? And I'm not so sure you want him to steer this ship....I'm thinking that maybe you don't want to give up control. You have built your own life that YOU control and you are now starting to let someone back in. IF you didn't mind giving up the control why would you fuss over his request for a different color of dress?
M-35 going on 15 D-8 S- 3 yrs ex-CL(w)- 30
D over one year
I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be. Douglas Adams "Just Be"
