The 64,000,000 question is who has changed....it's more like how much have you both changed? Is he still the same man he was before or are you noticing differences? Do you feel different towards him? Are the feelings of attraction still there or is it more of the comfort level? That's a lot of questions I just asked you....sorry!

The wanting to be in a regular R right now probably feels "normal" b/c that is what you were used too with him. The dating thing seems so long ago. I was married for only 8 years and I can't imagine just the dating thing. I know that even when my W visits I get the urge to just be in the R again even though it would be a rough go.

I think your confusion is completely normal and I'm sure it feels the same way to him also. You both seem to be "there" and the old ways will probably have to be held at bay. He is already telling you all about his Xmas and everything he did....He wants to include you. I jump at those signs. You know what you need to do and how to go about doing it......maybe it is just an issue with patience. Whatever you don't...don't do what I do!!

I say wear Navy on New Year's Eve! Nice taste in music and give him the Chia Pet already!

Sorry I missed this thread earlier...I was looking for it!

M-35 going on 15
D-8
S- 3 yrs
ex-CL(w)- 30

D over one year

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