I talked with DB coach Laurie yesterday and she was a huge help to me. After talking w/ her, I have decided to go dark w/ my H for at least the next month and then evaluate it weekly from there. My hope is that my H will miss that I did not contact him on his birthday (2/6), which essentially will show him that I did listen to his wishes and not contact him anymore. Also, he will have plenty of time w/ OW and can't blame me for his confusion if it is just the two of them. I really believe that he can't have anything real w/ her and I hope that he starts to realize what he is in for if he chooses to continue on w/ her and remove me from his life.
After talking w/ her, I have decided to go dark w/ my H for at least the next month and then evaluate it weekly from there. My hope is that my H will miss that I did not contact him on his birthday (2/6), which essentially will show him that I did listen to his wishes and not contact him anymore. Also, he will have plenty of time w/ OW and can't blame me for his confusion if it is just the two of them. I really believe that he can't have anything real w/ her and I hope that he starts to realize what he is in for if he chooses to continue on w/ her and remove me from his life. 
