Quote: You can't do anything to change his mind. Whether you're nice to him or mean to him really won't make much difference right now I think. But there is no reason for him to think that you will be sitting around waiting for him or looking after him, particularly if he's pursuing someone else. So I'd say it's time to shut him off. If you want to share with him what you've found as an introduction to why you're shutting him off, I don't think that's a problem. You might check with others here to see what they think.
Thank you so much for your reply and I agree with you. I'm actually not going to let him know why I'm not contacting him (because he's already told me not to contact him and to move on) also because I think that will give him too much info and I think that's been sort of a security blanket for him all of this time. He hasn't really had to wonder too much for me and I've seemingly had to do that myself.
I also read your recent thread and I was sorry to also hear that you were having a difficult time. I've been praying that God will help me to release this situation to Him and also my H's situation to Him. This is something that one of my friends said helped her in her situation and she said it helped to visualize this in your mind. I've also said prayers for you and your situation and others who are going through something similar. For me, it helps to know that someone is praying for me and I hope that it helps you too.
It hurts so bad to go through this, but I have to hope there is something that will come from this that will make me an even better person and also help even my H. I appreciate your words of encouragement.
