I was just on MySpace (yes, Unbroken, the dreaded place! ) and I was looking at my brother's page and some of his pictures. I was a little curious and did a search for my H's name. I've looked before and he did not have anything on there. I was so shocked b/c I found his page and it said "In a Relationship" under "Relationship Status." Also, he had this "girl" who is 22 (he is 30!) as I guess his "relationship" b/c they were saying "I love you back and forth to each other on each person's pages. Keep in mind, I just spent the last hour and a half talking to my friend and that is the only way that I can even type this in a way that half way makes sense.
I knew that he had been a little more than "friends" w/ her, but he has told me as recently as October that there was nothing to them and me even thinking that was making too much out of them. He also was talking to me then about moving forward slowly and asked me to give him just a little time to sort of "get rid of her" (my words, not his) so she would not pop up any more in our lives. At the end of October he found out he was losing his job and then everything was halted and he said he couldn't even think about a relationship at this time. Then at Christmas (see my earlier link "Christmas help") he told me that he couldn't promise me anything and that I should move on. Then I notice that over the last few weeks he has been telling this girl that he "loooooooooves" her. How can he say what he said to me in October and then be in this place of "non-relationship" w/ her, which looks a little like a relationship to me, if you ask me!
I have been sort of a non-judgemental friend to him over the last 6 months which is something that I thought was good. Now, I sort of think that I have been sort of his safety net, so he could live out this existence w/ this other person, but know that I would always be there. Now, at Christmas, he told me that he didn't want me to contact him and I should move on.
Do you think that this will actually make him think about the choices he is making? Do you think that he might think about really losing me when I not there to see how he is doing once a week? I know that you really can't know this 100% and I guess that I just need to vent and get this out.
It was just so hurtful to see his words say "I looooooooove you so much" to this other person. The same person that he told me basically meant nothing to him. How can that be?
I guess I've got to give this up to God b/c I can't continue to live worrying about everything when I can't do anything about his side of things. It's just so very hard when you know that he is not behaving like the person that you used to know so well.
) and I was looking at my brother's page and some of his pictures. I was a little curious and did a search for my H's name. I've looked before and he did not have anything on there. I was so shocked b/c I found his page and it said "In a Relationship" under "Relationship Status." Also, he had this "girl" who is 22 (he is 30!) as I guess his "relationship" b/c they were saying "I love you back and forth to each other on each person's pages. Keep in mind, I just spent the last hour and a half talking to my friend and that is the only way that I can even type this in a way that half way makes sense.
