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seems like he should get back to me if it is really important



Laura,
Don't even get me started on spouses who suddenly find themselves without the ability to show a little common decency and respond to phone calls, messages, invitations.

My wife has gone through periods where she simply refuses to answer her phone when I call. One of the boys can call her and she answers immediately (usually at least), but my calls would go to voice mail every time.

Back before thanksgiving (another debacle) I sent text messages to both my S19 and wife inviting them to the house on a Sunday afternoon for my world famous stir fry, football, and beers (no S19 was not allowed the beer part). Son replied immediately, said he'd be there after work. Wife never replied. Never. At that point in time I was not very good about holding my tongue and I made a comment in front of the boys about not understanding why she was so unable to at least call and say she couldn't make it. That got them upset at her, and we wound up with a mess that evening. I was wrong for speaking in front of the boys, apologized to all, but she never said a thing about the fact that a simple call or message could have stopped any of it from happening.

Just this weekend I had sent her a tm inviting her to join us for Christmas Eve. Now she was 500 miles away spending a week with her old boyfriend when I sent the tm, but still she never did respond to my message one way or the other. Three days later, on Christmas Eve, my son finally called her to ask if she was coming. She acknowledged receiving my message, but spewed some drivel about not knowing if I was serious or not.

Who knows why these simple acts are beyond them? Not me. It winds up being another of those things you just have to have no expectations on. I know when I leave a message for her that it's quite likely I will not hear back from her. So if I choose to send it, I tell myself that I've done what I wanted to do, the rest is up to her. And I do my best to leave it alone.

They really can drive you crazy if you choose to let them.

Blessings,

Bill

"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."