Quote: IT, I hope I'm wrong, but as I read your situation it sure sounds like H may either be considering or have already had an affair. Again, I hope I'm wrong. Maybe I misinterpret your conversation with him, happens alot when you're reading instead of hearing the words. But my take is that all the questions about you being involved with someone sound like him trying to gauge whether or not it's safe to tell you what he's done.
Separated for two years. That's a good while. Has he done anything to deal with his depression and confusion professionally? Any counseling of any kind to find out why he feels the way he does? 30 seems young for a MLC, but that doesn't mean he's not having other issues that mimic some of the MLC behavior.
I guess if you were asking for advice I would tend to side with the idea that it's time to establish some boundaries between the two of you. I don't know that it's necessary to "go dark," sounds like maybe that doesn't work so well on him, but I do get the sense that he's also someone who could be pretty clingy if he thinks you're easily available.
I don't know, sorry. The whole thing sounds a little bit to me like you both have spent two years apart, but you don't have a lot to show for it. My sense is that he's done nothing to address his issues, and I'm not sure how much you've done to move on and let him know that you're capable of living without him.
I guess more details would help. So I'll follow along for awhile and let you know if I think of anything.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
