Laura, Your link didn't work for me, but I read your post in "We're separated...". I was there for a while myself. I moved to MLC because I felt like I could relate to people more over here. I think you are already learning that you may never know what is truly going on with him because he doesn't know himself. So, diagnosing him with MLC, depression or anything else may not be the answer for you. I think you should find a place where you feel comfortable, where you feel you can relate to other posters the best.
That being said, I can tell you I have heard just about all the same things from my H that you have heard from yours... their personalities sound very similar. Although diagnosing your H with MLC might help you find some answers to his erratic behavior, your "reactions" are really the only things that matter. You seem to be GALing and lovingly distancing yourself from your H...keep it up! We certainly are all here for one common reason, but I have learned that there is more to this whole exerience than our WAS, it is a journey for us as well. We can speculate what is wrong with our WAS, we can speculate about another person in their lives, but you already know that we cannot make them see the light and even if you know beyond a reasonable doubt that your H is in a MLC, can you really tell him that?...sooooo, what can we do in the meantime? I think we only work on ourselves. I know, easier said that done. Believe me, I am still working on that myself...otherwise I wouldn't be here, right?
