Hi Nicola - I am so sorry to see the hurt and pain you are going through. I know you are so conflicted about what to do. Althea's post was wonderful advice.
I think in some ways the advice you have given to me can apply back to you. In some ways our situations are different (your H is undecided, my H eventually made up his mind and then it was full steam ahead) but in some ways they are similar (that we both realize despite the love we have for our H's, they didn't make us happy, didn't give us the love we deserved and we sense that there is more out there for us.) You've told me recently that I will love again and that person I meet will cherish me and give me all the love that I need and want and am able to share with him. I think you should think of that same advice for yourself, that you deserve all of these things and you can and will find it again. Your H might not deserve all the heartfelt feelings you have for him. Please focus on yourself and your happiness. In time, your path will become very clear to you, whatever it is. I believe that.
