Great post Nicola ~ Yes BJ's post on my thread really stuck me too. Even when I was acting as if I was happy I wasn't genuinely happy like I am now.

We can't help our WAS find happiness or make it through this stage they are going through. They have to find their own happiness. Unfortunately in my case and probably alot of others I think my h is trying to find his happinesss through others still. I wish him every happiness and truly hope he finds it someday.

I have told him that as well as mentioning that he can't let others decide his happiness (yep that includes me lol tho I didn't say that part).

Much love

Christy
M: 31
H: 33
Married ~ 13 years
S12
S8
Bomb 10/05 supposedly ended A
2nd bomb 12/30/05
Separated 01/06
I filed 6/12/07 ~ new ow 3wks after moving out
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1094955&page=0#Post1094955