Yes, I do agree with you that if your H has those types of addictions, then he does need to take care of that b4 you guys can once again have a R.
What I hate the most, is that this whole time I've been with H, I've not shown that christian-loving attitude that Jesus would have shown, and instead I showed a pouty and depressed attitude (sometimes, not always) because he didn't have a desire whatsoever to go with us.
Someone told me, that when we plant a seed, we also need to let it grow. So I could have been planting seeds and just ripping them back out. What hindsight I have thinking about how his life might be turned to Christ, had I been accepting of his undesire, and just kept showing him by my actions what it meant to be a christian and the joy that comes from it.
But, I still don't regret what happened, because I truely believe that God allowed him to leave me so that I could become closer to HIM and learn how I was really suppose to be.
Anyways, thank you again, and God Bless you.
What we really need to focus on, is our H's salvation, not for them to come back to us and be the H that we want. I learned that during my DBing, but it is very hard to accomplish!
Crissy
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
