Still on the journey 2

[S.T. _I Made It!]

My pastor actually said that maybe I never had the chance to be the wife I *could* be in this marriage, and he was right: I was not myself. I am so much calmer and happier now. Even when I am sad, I am happy deep inside. For the last few years, it's been the opposite.


After reading that quote of yours, it made me think.

I really was not the christian wife that I should have been with my H. He was not a christian and I alowed that to cause bitterness in me and I let him determine my happiness. I looked for him to make me happy, not myself. I let his actions affect how I felt, and felt about myself.

This is what I believe happens to us. When our WAS leaves and we discover happiness within ourselves, we assume that we couldn't have been happy with our spouses and that we are better off now. However, I think that had we not allowed their actions to affect us, and not have any expectations of our spouses that we COULD be happy in our M. I just didn't realize what I was doing until my H "left" me and it was a wake-up call for me. Luckily God gave me the chance for change, and my H is back in our M for good now.

Of course, only you truely know your H, so if they are an abusive person or something like that, well then I believe that a person would be better of w/o them. And I haven't read your thread to know your H.

Anyways, just wanted to put in my 2 cents, and I wish you well and a great future ahead.