Nicola, I haven't been to your threads in a long time. Sorry.
I believe you are on the right path for you. You are improving your own life and dealing with H as the situation deserves. You show lots of dignity in your actions with him.
One thing I found out is that you can't keep a person from destroying their own life, you just have to pray and hope they find a way to correct the destruction. My EX has broken 9 out of the 10 commandments and I don't know about the 10th. How can you help someone who does this except through prayer?
Hope 2007 proves to be a great year for you.
TD
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