Sorry...I did not intend to sound or be negative. Let me try and clarify a little better. In no way am I suggesting that you give up. After all that is entirely up to you. As I have found out you just cant expect/force someone to change. They must do it themselves. It was once I stopped doing this that things began to get much better for me. Sure what works for me will/may not work for others. I am just giving you one option from many. What I am saying in general is that you need to enjoy YOU for YOU and no one else. Your H has made a choice to be apart from your family for the time being. He has to choose to come back. Yes be compassionate as long as you deem your H worthy of your compassion. However, as long as things remain the same you will be in a rut with no way out. By simply letting go you prepare yourself for that eventuality; a life without your H. Try to find happiness alone and you will never fear being alone. Sure it would be great if your H jumped on the boat with you, but as I warned 1.5 years ago, this could take a long time. Call this negative if you will but I prefer to call it being realistic.
True...I never imagined I would get to where I am today, nor do I know where I will be tomorrow. This I can tell you...I am so much better off now. I have shown myself that I can attract the type of lady I am looking for. I now know I can be happy as a single person. I would like to have a long-term R and eventually get married. I am no hurry and I will not settle for less this time as I did in the past. One thing I will not tolerate is meddling inlaws or anyone else for that matter. Ciao and Happy New Year again!
