Nicola - my h also started to reconnect, and then did back and forths, but went back further and harder into the tunnel. I think in part he started to see how much damage he had caused, and couldn't cope. It was easier to bolt back rather than face his demons.
In August I also told him that he had treated me with rudeness and contempt, and he was astonished, but he did treat me more civilly subsequently.
Like you, I feel that this is now my journey, and about how I turn out . . . I really like the person I am turning into - if that doesn't sound to MLCish!
