My husband left almost 5 weeks ago. I have another post in the Newcomers forum titled In crisis please help. I have no clue how to link it. Let me say that initially I thought MLC was a bunch of hooey. Now I know better. It took me a while to see that that is exactly what H is experiencing. Not necessarily by the book but without a doubt. So here's my question, H is bipolar, does anyone know in what ways that MLC is different for those people. He has had the bipolar symptoms for years (at least 6) however now I am wondering if it has been MLC all along. Basic timeline is roughly when our daughter was born 6 yrs ago. He started having rages and blaming me for everything. He went on meds for a short time but then stopped taking them. Things seemed to really blow wide open a little over a year ago when his mother was diagnosed with Lung Cancer. She went into remission in July and in Aug his affair started. He left in Nov. and I found out by snooping roughly 2 days later. He is now living with OW. I realise this post is pretty fragmented but another thing that I am wondering is, How can I tell better when the MLC started and what were the bipolar symptoms or what is the likely hood that it is all MLC. I did not go to the C or anything with him at the time so I am not even sure what the diagnoses was based on. Also he seems to be all over the place to where I can't really tell where he is at as far as the stages. Basically I need real guidance here. I have been reading everything I can lay hands on but not really being able to get a handle on how it differs for those that are bipolar. I know the depression he has experienced has been terrible for years with many suicide threats. Never any attempts that I know of. I simply cannot bring myself to think of the implications of the depression getting worse. He is dead set against meds as well as C.
