I’d also like to compliment you on how open you have been to taking in advice and how much you have learned in such a short period of time. But that very fact bothers me a little. This comment might be out of place, but again, it is meant in good faith.
I believe that the changing of a person’s way of emotionally reacting is a very difficult thing to do. Emotions are deep seated and slow to change. Your understanding has moved forward very quickly, but I wonder if part of that is just another side of your wish to be accepted and not offend others. In this case, it has worked for your good. But your bigger goal is to be more assertive, self assured, and in some ways, unassailable in your beliefs. You seem very open to overturning your previous views of marriage, women and yourself.
Again, this is great for the learning you need to go through. But once you feel you have a good understanding and have been able to make these ideas a part of your being and your reactions, think about firming up your convictions (or at least the appearance of them to your wife) so she can see you as the rock, not a leaf blowing in the wind.
