You need to be able to achieve that relaxed mindset in which you can think ahead with confidence and act cocksure even if you aren't cocksure
You are right. Confidence and relaxation have a ton do to with it. I need to get to the place where I am much less dependent on what I think she thinks about me.
consider how "easy" it might be for a woman who has been given every indication that a man finds her unattractive to approach that man for sex.
It has to be extremely difficult, because the times that I haven't responded to her approach have been extremely hurtful to her.
Word to the wise-Do not ever say anything to her like "You are looking really hot now that you've been running." and make a move. She will interpret this as "I was punishing you for being somewhat overweight by withholding sex." and she will be acquited by a jury of her peers if she kills you on the spot.
Fortunately I have never, not even once, made a derrogatory comment about her weight. And in my opinion she looked great before the current weight loss. She has walked around thinking she was fat since she was a kid, thanks to her family. I have a picture of her on my computer with my son. I think she's stunning. She saw it the other day and said "I look fat in that picture." I said with all sinceity "I think you look absolutely beautiful."
What she doesn't realize is that the thing I find most attractive about her is her smile. And she gives that to me so infrequently.
a man is standing in front of her limp and desperate
Since this man is limp can we pretend he's someone else? And can I be standing in front of her too with a rock hard erection? Sorry, that may be too much from Friday morning.
The best that I can do is suggest that you should be very calm and firm in all your interactions with your wife because lack of sex has knocked her pretty much literally into a state of hysteria.
It's having a similar effect on me. It's not JUST lack of sex, though. It's lack of fun. This is a fun girl living a very demanding life. And since we haven't been clicking, our fun times have not been fun. I haven't been fun.
1) Do something to her or even for her that involves the use of your muscles.
2) Be monosyllabic. I don't know why this works but it does. Think John Wayne.
