I think her intent was to say "Just because I'm being nice doesn't mean I'm backing down."
I will not try to manipulate her into staying with me. But I won't let her guilt me into divorcing her either. I feel like this is a healthy position for me to take. It's extremely difficult for me to contradict her, though. It feels like I'm not being nice, and it makes me fear that she won't like me, and might get mad at me. But not standing my ground is one of the reasons I'm in this place.
