It's true. Here's a short list of things she/we're angry about that really haven't been resolved.
Didn't get to date anyone, even to hold hands Weren't allowed to listen to the music everyone else was listening to She wasn't allowed to go to public school We didn't get to go to the prom or football games or parties We were constantly pushed to be perfect 24/7 with the ultimate goal of pleasing God We were taught ALL SORTS of fringe beliefs that made us much different even than conservative Christian groups We were given no resources for solving sexual problems...we were taught that everything was supposed to just work if we had remained pure...we did, and they didn't We were taught that psychology was tantamount to witchcraft and that the answer to all our problems was in prayer, reading the scripture, and spending time with others in our group We were taught than any type of sexual thoughts about anyone other than our current mate, even the thought of it, was the same as having sex with that person We were taught that masturbation was a sin
The list goes on and on and on.
And then there are our FOO issues: my no-touch, no-anger, no-romance, poor me family; her high pressure, be perfect family with a highly sexed and unfaithful father.
BUT, I have given her plenty of reasons to be mad at me. And out of all these things she's angry about, I am the easiest one to eliminate.
One more thing. Despite all the things I listed above, everyone ... EVERYONE has been completely surprised that we're having problems. Because we BOTH worked so freaking hard at having the appearance of having everything together, despite the extreme turmoil within each of us and between us.
OK...here's the anger we've been waiting for. I've felt like I couldn't be angry before because I was so ashamed of my sex issues.
