Quote: About my increased sex drive, I'd say it's part self esteem, and part not getting any, and NONE her being mean.
I didn't mean to imply that you are directly turned on by mean behavior. I think that you are turned on because you feel less controlled and I think that you feel less controlled because your wife is not acting like your Mom anymore because she has abandoned you. If she could learn to not act like your Mom but still tolerate your presence in her life than she wouldn't have to be mean to turn you on. Her "controlling" and "nice" behavior would become unlinked. I am being overly simplistic here but I hope you get my drift.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
