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This is an uphill battle. Oddly, though, I'm loving it. As I'm figuring things out, gaining strength, I'm finding that half of the time I'm charged about meeting the challenge. For me, this is absolutely revolutionary. I also feel more sexual than ever, and I'm starting to dream about my future. MY future.




That is because IMO your wife really did you a huge favor by kicking your azz to the side of the road . Her anger is a sign of her internal struggle between her unhealthy "need to be needed" and her healthy "want to be wanted". That is why you royally p*ss her off when you act "poor me". She feels like you are trying to make her return to her former poor functioning of "needing to be needed" by acting "needy". Her angry accusations that you "always need to be the nice guy" is her only defense against her mushy maternal feelings which make her want to take care of you like a baby.

I think that the biggest favor anyone can do for their partner is to simply do the best they can to care for themselves, even if this means that they have "selfishly" ignore the neediness expressed by their partner. Unfortunately, you are in the situation that your wife is no longer willing to give you a fish and is no longer even willing to teach you how to fish or lend you a pole, so you are going to have to figure out how to survive all on your own. Luckily, you seem to have a positive outlook. So, now all you have to do is get yourself a stiff pole and a good line and dangle some bait on your hook .

"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver