I used to think this was humility or openness. Now I'm starting to think that my need to bare my soul to her was sometimes deflection of responsibility. Like I was expecting her to help me.
We've been talking about me being enmeshed. I've recognized this kind of codependency for awhile...like when she was mad at me I couldn't move on until we reconciled.
Here's something I haven't mentioned. She's the same way... but with her best friend. I saw her transferring her affection and attention over to her friend (who is also my friend) two or three years ago. Unfortunately, instead of figuring out what was wrong with our relationship, I just got jealous of theirs.
I tried talking about it. But I was defensive, she was defensive, and I backed off.
