I need to catch up, and I'm still in the middle of responding to Cobra, but I need to interrupt with a bulletin, because it seems very pertinent to the anger discussion going on.
I helped my kids buy presents for my wife. S4 picked out pajamas, but I got the wrong size. I went last night and exchanged them, and left them on the doorstep. Then I got this email from my wife:
"i just went outside--i already exchanged my pj's and i'm wearing them so i hope you can return the one's that you bought. i can take care of myself."
Mean. I replied:
"I can take them back. I know you can take care of yourself, but this was a present from S4, and it was my responsibility. Regardless, I'm glad you have your pj's."
To which she replied:
"i am so angry and i want to let that go--i'm sorry."
Which of course makes me want to sqeeze her and kiss her and STOP!!! :-)
Here's the reply I'm considering:
"Thank you. But you're angry for a reason. I don't know whether it was me or someone else, but someone has made you feel like you couldn't take care of yourself. And you can not only take good care of yourself, but you're taken good care of your patients and the kids and ME. I think I owe it to you to listen to you and ask myself if I'm the one who's made you feel like this."
