In your last post you said basically everything I said before I said it... you don't know what she's really thinking, what she really wants, you don't need to apologize for anything you're doing, no matter how she takes it. *I* think you're right on track. And not just because you agree with me.

It's interesting that you said she forced you to make the "hard" decisions... and yet you are convinced that she sees you as wishy-washy. These two things don't compute together. If she truly believed you were wishy-washy, she would just run roughshod over you... but instead she pushes and pushes until YOU step up to the plate and do what she lacks the guts to do. Clearly she sees you as strong and able to do what she perceives as needing doing.

It seems to me, in light of this, that you're right, she is pushing you to take steps to put the D in motion. So don't do that. She can't MAKE you do anything, particularly since you're not living together so you aren't there to submit to her button-pushing 24/7. To paraphrase Nancy Reagan: "Just DON'T do it."